marriage partners to avoid being far
away from each other; or living in
different places by all means. It is
against this backdrop that Saturday
PUNCH asked some couples what they
would do if their spouses are
transferred from their current working
places to another location.
I will follow him
Dasola Abraham
I don't have any choice. It's either I am
transferred to where my husband is
transferred to or I resign from my job.
Then I have to look for another job
there or start a business that I can
manage. You know I cannot leave my
husband to be devoured by the ladies
there. I have to be there with him. My
husband will need someone like me to
be around to take care of him. But wait
a minute, if my salary is good where I
am, I may not leave the job and follow
him. I will just continue to pray for him.
It depends
John Oliver
It depends on how strong my business
is. If I don't have much doing here, I
wouldn't mind relocating with her and
starting a business there but if I have a
good business here, I won't follow her
but she would have to come home
every weekend and the custody of the
children would be on agreement.
Though there is the danger of infidelity
but I can handle it and I would expect
her to manage it well too. If we can't
manage it well between two to three
months, she would have to resign and
come back home. It is easier for me as a
man than the woman.
As long as the money comes, no
problem
Oluwafunmike Oladeji
Really, it is going to be a problem for
both of us. But what do I do? Of course,
I can't tell him to stay back because it's
from the salary he receives from the job
that he will take care of me and our
children. The only thing we would
discuss is how we would be seeing as a
family so that our love won't suffer as a
result of the distance. The money is the
main thing we are talking about here.
Moreover, we both want to have more
experience, progress, and exposure, and
no one can achieve that by staying in
one particular place for a long period of
time.
I can follow her, if…
Eugene Okonkwo
If her job is better, I can stop my
business here, follow her and establish
there, but if mine is better, she would
have to resign and stay with me here.
There is no condition that can make me
allow my wife to be far from her home
because there are some benefits in
being close to each other, such as advice
and company. Really, there is fun in
sharing things with your wife. I can't
imagine my wife seeing our children on
weekends only and I can't bear it too.
There is more to having a happy home
than chasing money.
His company must transfer us both
Kemi Adebayo
What I would do will depend on where
he is transferred to and the nature of
what he is going there to do. If he is
transferred outside Nigeria, the
company has to work out my own
journey with him too. However, if he is
not going to spend along time there, I
will be patient and probably obtain a
leave of absence from my working place
to be with him once in a while. Also, if
it is within the country, I will seek for a
transfer from my working place, too.
I can't leave my work
Ifeanyi Okafor
I can't leave my job and follow her to
her new place of work. No matter how
long, I believe she will come back
someday. I will allow her to pursue her
career to that length if it's worthwhile,
but if it's not or the place is not worth it
or good enough, she must come back.
Either she leaves or not, my children will
remain with me until I'm sure that she's
settled there, even though they can visit
her. I will survive on my own, as long as
she's fine.
I'll go anywhere he goes
Oluwaseye Ajayi
If we are married by then, I am going
with him wherever he is transferred to.
In fact, I would have to work on my own
transfer. But if we're not yet married
and he is posted just like that, I only
need to sit back and pray for him to
prosper wherever he is transferred to.
Above all, the most important thing is to
trust each other. By committing him in
God's hands, I believe everything will be
okay.
She would have to resign
Ekene Eboh
She would have to resign. Any job that
will take my wife out of her matrimonial
home is not worth keeping. Her
purpose in marriage is to build and take
good care of the home, not to provide
for the family, even if it's the best job.
There is no job that can be as good as
our family and if it's her job that will
take that away from her, she would
have to resign. It doesn't matter how
lucrative the job is. The home should
come before career. Any job that will
take my wife out of her home for days,
weeks or months is not worth holding
on to.
I'll follow him because I can't do
without him
Princess Fred
I will follow him anywhere he goes
because what would I be able to do
alone without my husband? As a matter
of fact, I will resign from my job and
apply for another one when we get to
where he is transferred to.
Nevertheless, if it is just for a short
period of time, I will keep my cool and
pray for him. He is going to check up on
me occasionally and I too will go see
him perhaps on weekends. But I will
miss him much.
I'll stay and let her go
Ibrahim Hamidu
I won't resign or close my business
because it means that we would have to
depend on her salary only which is not
sustainable. We have to work together.
So, because of love and trust, I will let
her go. We can visit ourselves every
weekend so as to sustain the intimacy in
the marriage and when we have
children, they can choose whether to
stay with me or follow her. The distance
doesn't matter, I'll let her go, and do
my work.
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