My rival happens to be my younger sister’s classmate in secondary school

Hi Aunty, I am Lucy from Ibadan . I am
dating a guy who says he loves me but
he is dating another girl and whenever
she is around, he tends to avoid me .
Whenever I tell him that I can’t share
him with anybody that I want to end the
relationship , he will then apologise and
say if he didn’ t love me , he wouldn’t
have introduced me to his parents and
that I should try and understand that he
is dating her because of me and this girl
happens to be my younger sister’ s mate
in secondary school .
Oh yeah ! So he’s dating her because of
you. Really ? Many years ago, whenever
our fathers wanted to take a second
wife , they would announce that they
were getting a helpmate for our
mothers – somebody to help wash
plates and clothes around the house. So,
your boyfriend is getting you a
helpmate even before marrying you.
That ’s n -i -c -e !!
My dear , you’re the one he’s avoiding
here , not the other girl , which means
that she ’s the favoured one and the one
whose emotions need to be protected.
You’ re the one who would understand
and you’re the one he’s not afraid to
lose even if you know. Forget about him
introducing you to his parents. It is
possible he has introduced her to them
too with some explanations about why
he ’s about to dump you.
From the tone of your mail, I could see
that this other girl doesn ’t live where
you and the guy live. So while she ’s
away , he needs a human blanket to keep
him warm. You can decide from now on
if you want to play the second fiddle or
you want to move on . It ’ s really not
wise fighting over this guy, so move on
if that’s what your mind is telling you.