women are wired differently. They have
different ways of expressing and varying
levels of emotional understanding.
Avoid making silly mistakes by getting a
few simple things right. These are some
of the ten most common mistakes
women make in a relationship.
1. Too many questions about the
past:
The fact that your man is in a
relationship with you currently is proof
enough that he is in love with you and
has already gotten over his past
relationships. While it's good to know a
little bit about his past, don't take the
liberty of digging so deep that his
wounds freshen up.
2. Visiting his workplace:
This is quite a sensitive issue as most
men don't like their girlfriends dropping
in at their workplaces without being
told. It is only if you are in a steady
relationship from a long time or
engaged that you can take the liberty of
dropping into your man's workplace
uninformed.
3. Bringing up marriage:
If you have been in a relationship for a
long time, it's but natural that you will
talk about marriage and settling down at
some point. You may have a
conversation about this once but don't
bring up the topic again and again. You
will be at a loss if your man gets
irritated by the same conversation
taking place repetitively. It's not that
men are averse to commitment; it's
just that they take some time in taking
these important decisions.
4. Pretending to be someone:
If there is anything that men hate, it is
lies and hypocrisy. Many women make
the blunder of pretending to be what
they are not in reality. For instance, if
you don't like putting on makeup and
dressing too much for a party, don't do
it just for him. He will immediately
sense your discomfort. He would much
rather appreciate and love your honesty
and expect you to be what you are.
5. Compare financials:
How would you feel if someone
compared your salary figures to that of
your contemporaries? Terrible, surely!
Although in today's world, women see
themselves as equals to men, men still
think of themselves as bread earners of
the family. Treat your man with respect
irrespective of his earning. Don't ever
make the mistake of comparing his
financials with others.
6. Don't attempt to mend him:
Accept him with all his flaws and
abilities. Don't try and mother him to
change his habits according to your
needs. Give your man his space and
watch how that automatically brings him
to you.
7. Giving too much freedom:
If you see your man talking to other
women at most of the parties and even
going to the extent of flirting with them
when you're around, take that as a
warning signal and strike on it as soon
as possible but don't be rude, do it
politely and in style. You may be
making a terrible mistake by trusting
your partner blindly with such behavior.
8. Expecting expression of feelings
all the time:
Men are not used to constant
expression. For instance, you should
expect a compliment from him once in
a while but if you start expecting it
every day then you are calling for
trouble. You have to understand that
just because men don't express the
way in which women freely do; it
doesn't mean they don't love with
passion.
9. Talking negatively:
If you bitch about others in front of your
man all the time (once in a while is
acceptable of course), it will make him
feel that someday when you are not
together you will talk about him in the
same way with other people. Don't
make an impression on him that you
are a negative person.
10. Comparing Looks:
Impress your man by showing some
confidence about how beautiful and
attractive you look. It's not your outfit
but your confidence that attracts your
man. In trying to fish for compliments
by comparing your physical appearance
with other women, you are just making
matters worse.
In-addition: Women often commit
blunders with men in relationships. It's
a matter of understanding that men
have a certain way of dealing with
things that is different from women.
Once you get this point, you will be
much more comfortable and at ease in
dealing with the men in your life.
(WATCH OUT FOR 10 MISTAKE MEN
MAKE IN A RELATIONSHIP)
By Greg Ighodaro
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